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Is Your Life A Circus? (Then Learn To Be The Ringmaster)

Do you ever feel like your life is a three-ring circus?

And when you feel that way, does that make you feel bad, overwhelmed, or stressed?

Why does the circus get such a bad rap? I mean, most people love a good circus and have for centuries.

In fact, the Romans were some of the first to have a circus, which is where the name comes from. It is the Latin word for circle.

What if I told you I WANTED your life to be like a circus?

Would you stop reading and move on? No. Don't. Hear me out!

A circus is actually pretty amazing. It is a collection of trained individuals who present a precise, organized, and choreographed show.

The key is to have an experienced Ringmaster to keep everything running smoothly.

That's where you come in! I'm betting you already possess the skills and wisdom to turn what you call a circus into a well-oiled life machine.

Come see what I mean.

I Bet You Are A Great Animal Trainer

Ok, I'm not going to call the children in your life animals, but I wouldn't be surprised if you hadn't thought it a time or two. (No judgment here, says the kettle.)

And while the animal rights groups have fought (as they should) to keep the treatment of circus animals safe and humane, I'm talking about a different type of training.

Our children (and grandchildren) do need training. The animals in the circus are taught to follow instructions and to heed certain guidance. They are given training and preparation for their moment in the spotlight.

Your kids need that same training. I'm obviously not advocating for mistreatment. Just stay in line with the theme here. Children need to be prepared for their entrance into the world as adults.

They need to be taught when to be polite, when to move forward, and when to stay still. They need to respect others around them and know when it is their turn to shine and their turn to help others shine.

Discipline and kindness are not inherent traits. They must both be taught and passed on to our children while they are young enough to absorb and then emulate them.

And speaking of training, let's talk about the other adults in your life. Friends, family, relationships. I don't expect you to try (or want to) 'train' or manipulate another person, but I am suggesting that we teach people how to treat us.

Set boundaries. Be consistent. Never tolerate abuse. Know the difference between a welcome mat and a doormat. Welcome others into your life, but don't allow them to wipe their dirt and trash all over you.

I Bet You Are A Great Tightrope Walker

I have terrible balance. I am not graceful. I can't skate. I can't dance. Walking the balance beam in high school gym class was something I hated, because I always, always, fell off.

How those people get up stories high under a circus top and walk across on a rope is beyond me. Not to mention the turns and flips they do while up there.

But I can tell you a thing or two about balance in the real world. And I'm pretty sure you can too. Today's world pulls us in several different directions. We have to work to stay focused on what's in front of us; the task at hand. Knowing what's important and what's foolishness.

Yes, we all need a break to regroup and refresh, but the strategy is to balance the good with the bad. The work with the fun. We have to learn to turn on a time to put out one fire and then get right back to another one. To keep the priorities in the right order. It's a challenging task for sure.

And sometimes we slip. But we know we can't stay down. We have to get back up there. People depend on you. They count on you. And you do your very best to be there.

I Bet You Are A Great Juggler

Along with being able to walk a tight rope, you must also be an accomplished juggler.

Work, family, friends, finances, self-care time, how in the world do we all get it done and keep everything in the air?

You find a way! You know when to ask for help. You know when to say no. You know when to let something drop, and when it is ok to add it back in.

And the key is practice. Even the best jugglers in the world didn't start that way. They practiced, they dropped things, they kept honing their skill. You can do that too.

I Bet You Are A Great Clown

Now at face value, I know that doesn't sound like a compliment, but stay with me.

And honestly, clowns creep me out and on most occasions, I'm not a fan.

But the origin of the clown is not creepy; we've just made it that way in modern times.

And clowns were not jesters; which I did find interesting. A jester was someone who mocked or made jokes at their or others' expense. They were also typically thought to be fools.

A clown, on the other hand, was a professional performer whose job was to entertain people and make them laugh.

Now, again, I'm not saying it is your job to be a performer for the people around you, but I am saying that I'm willing to bet you do a great job at making people happy.

There are a million things you can do to help someone, but making them laugh or smile is often more memorable than a completed task.

Putting people at ease. Being kind-hearted. Being quick to offer a pleasant response. Being joyful. Always doing your best to spread happiness to those you love.

Be Your Own Ringmaster

My Hopefuls, life is challenging. And stressful. And busy. And beautiful.

You have opportunities every day to do/say something positive or do/say something negative. You can't always choose what happens to you, but your reaction to it is always your choice.

Maybe your life does feel like a circus. Maybe the animals are restless and hungry. Maybe the tightrope is getting slack. Maybe your juggling skills need refined. And maybe your clown does feel more like a jester.


Embrace the circus. Become your own Ringmaster. Take back charge of your life. If you need help with organizing; there are apps and other tools for that. If you need better parenting strategies; there are classes and books for that.

If you've lost your own smile or happiness, then work to find it back. Through a break. Through counseling. Whatever works best for you.

We all only get one life. Circus or not, we owe it to ourselves to make the best of it.

I believe in you, and I look forward to seeing you under Life's Big Top!

And until then...


Hope With Abandon

Hope Out


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